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What is this thing called love?

   Posted by: WhiRL   in Discussion

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Have you ever fell in love? I have…in fact I believe I didn’t just fall in love but truly loved. Yet no matter how I see it, I still question. What is this thing called love?

In my humble opinion, we live in a generation that has a warped up idea of love. We have limited the definition of love until it becomes nothing more than a feeling of attraction. Romance dominates every single movie you see. Without it the movie will be a flop.

Love in fact is a universal language that everyone supposedly knows about. If love was taken away from life, there is no life. So then why is love such an important part of our life yet we hardly know or want to know what love is?

So what is this thing called LOVE? I honestly would like to hear from other people’s perspective on what love is.

I believe love is a deliberate choice. It is not based on feelings nor emotions but a choice to love someone for just who they are. I could never ask my parents not to love me. They have chosen to and will love me.

Of course I could write a whole paper on this. But what is love to you? We hear statements being thrown around such as ‘you don’t love me anymore’ or ‘you don’t know what love is’ or even ‘ I don’t love you anymore’. Can we actually define what true love is? I believe we can.

So dear friends,

Maybe you can answer it this way….the first section answer what you think is not love or is commonly misinterpreted as love.

The second section.. write what love really is.

Please contribute….I believe this can develop into something really interesting. You may ask why I suddenly raise this question? Maybe I’m just struggling to find out and answer to this question so much.

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15 comments so far

ShAnNeN
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u need to know its answer? well.. i’m so young to respond ur tough question lo! hehe.. the best way of finding its answer is HOLY BIBLE..! it would give u an answer ya.. hehe.. anyway, thanks God for giving the special present “LOVE”.. ;)

March 13th, 2008 at 11:55 am
Mike Leo
 2 

Love is a choice. It involves feeling, but it’s more than feeling. You have to make the choice to love or hate. You are not governed by your feeling, but the other way round. So, start making right choices and the right kind of love

March 14th, 2008 at 11:43 am
WhiRL
 3 

May I ask Mike, what is the right kind of love?

Shannen I agree with you about the Bible. Love thought there is unconditional. Jesus loved us without conditions. Something I could never understand fully until I really loved someone unconditionally in my life recently.

March 14th, 2008 at 12:45 pm
C-mille
 4 

I guess most of us assume that we know what love is and that is why we don’t really bother asking what it actually is.

yes,love involves feelings.Loving some1 is a choice that we make.I agree with you about ”loving some1 for who they are”.While Jesus told us to love every1,most of the time we choose to love who we like,who we see favour in etc.Don’t you think so too?

Love involve feelings,our emotions and love in time grow in us.To love some1 and be hurt by them,it really leaves us with a deep scar.But people have this attitude of ‘playing’ with love.As long as i have somebody to love,it satisfies me and my partner,its enough for me.When i’m bored of that person,i’ll just find new ones.i have friends who told me this before ”there’s so many girls in this world,why should i just stick to one girl”.Obviously i as a girl was disgusted hearing that.
I noticed friends around me(i’m not judging them or anything but i’m just saying what i can see),they are ‘playing’ with love/feelings.Yes,in secondary school they call it puppy love but I’m not pint pointing that i’m in secondary school thats why i noticed this but even adults play with other people feelings.When you’ve been hurt and re-hurt by the person that you thought would be the ‘one’,i think it creates a fear of being in love or loved by some1 again as you wouldn’t want to go through the hurts again.

I don’t think what i wrote answers your questions.I just wrote what came into my mind. =)

March 14th, 2008 at 4:43 pm
WhiRL
 5 

I do believe that its not only guys playing with feelings but also girls nowadays. Sad I agree! Love essentially is something beautiful yet so distorted now. That is why I want to talk about what it really is.

Maybe the negative part that you pointed out is so true. People always use love as a bargaining chip. You love me, I love you back. Those we like and find so called favour we love. Those who don’t benefit us we don’t love. Did I get you right?

March 14th, 2008 at 10:14 pm
Donna Lee
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For me, i might say love… is… well, myself is actually got no answer on it. see, i don’t love people as they’d loved me. they never ask for return or refund. i just found out that, it could be easy and it could be hard at times. love should be great, happy, willingly, peacefully and unconditionally. now, the other way round? it’s not love anymore? and if i don’t hate, means i love?

March 16th, 2008 at 11:40 pm
WhiRL
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Hi Donna! Nice of you to drop by. I very much agree with you about never expecting returns or refunds. It should be sincere.

But I think hate is the extreme but I think its possible to love the person but hate the sin. So it can exist both at once what do you think?

read an article in the star newspaper yesterday. I think I know her. Marriane Liaw. I think she was in Bible school once. I hope its her at least because I don’t have her contact anymore. Oops. But its a good article about true love.

http://thestar.com.my/lifestyle/story.asp?file=/2008/3/16/lifefocus/18984643&sec=lifefocus

March 17th, 2008 at 10:25 am
Donna Lee
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yes, it does exist both at once. just like when someone hates what his family is doing but he also will be the one who can’t wait to help when they’re in trouble. he will hurt… yes, love will hurt too.

but when he starts knowing lesser and lesser about what love is, he will stop loving and will start to figure out what is love… perhaps, there’s something that makes him forgotten what love is and how to love…

March 17th, 2008 at 4:51 pm
WhiRL
 9 

Sorry Donna but I have to disagree. If that person truly loves it will never be forgotten. This is because I hold to this verse with all my heart.

1Co 13:7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

I have recently experienced this to be true. I will never ever believe hate can overcome TRUE love.

I believe though if the person continues to feed the hate it will be hard to overcome but love is more powerful than that. Still one has the choice to hate totally. I think only when one choose to hate and not to love then only hate can take over.

March 17th, 2008 at 5:04 pm
Donna Lee
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Well, myself actually don’t agree with this too. It might not be true, ermm… it’s not true anyways… I do agreed with what you said. But if we’re to look for what is good for ourselves only, love will turn into selfish love.

There’s no such a thing as selfish love. Love should be for everyone… Am I right?

March 17th, 2008 at 7:43 pm
WhiRL
 11 

You’re right when you say everyone should be free to love and be love but the sad part that until today, the distorted view of love has caused this not to happen naturally anymore. Thats why I wrote this blog to ask people’s opinion on what love really is. And you don’t have to take my opinion too. Its just an opinion and discussion.

And I think also there is no such thing as selfish love. It can never go together because they are total opposites that clash. Self-Centered love is probably what you meant. This is where the person is more focused on themselves rather than the full extent of love.

March 17th, 2008 at 9:02 pm
Friend's friend
 12 

LOVE is when you just want to give and give to that person whereas lust is about getting.

To be honest, I don’t really think that love exist in this age in its most genuine form because of the values that had been so diluted. There are so many prequisites for love, such as, “if you do this for me, I will love you” or”if you behave as such, i will love you” Thank God that His love is unconditional.

April 4th, 2008 at 11:30 pm
WhiRL
 13 

Very true Friend…hehe

I beg to differ that its non existant I believe its rare but still very much present and alive.

But you are right everything is dluted nowadays. Well Said friend

April 4th, 2008 at 11:43 pm
Edren
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Thanks God for this topic. Hopefully i’m not too late to be in the discussion. Haha.. I used to think “love” is a feeling of miss. You love someone has causes you wanted to be with him/her. You love someone is an action you wanted to express. Well, it sounded like love is feeling to me though. But, after experiencing it myself. That’s not all.. There’s a lot of consequences in this love thingy. There is so much of committment.. so much of for-going issue we have to take into consideration. Can we really love and forget the rest? Can we really love and for-go what we having now? Can we just love without thinking of anything else? Hmm.. still haven’t found the answer of love. As.. for me.. it’s just a mystery. So.. to be simple.. Love is suppose to be Happy. Love is suppose to be something where someone envy about! Love is everlasting… aren’t they?

Leon said:

I think what you described in the early part is ‘infactuation’. It can be part of love but does not define true love. I believe there are alot of testimonies that prove it is possible to love that way.

But I don’t agree that love has to be happy. Joyful yes but not happy. I could be the saddest but still love with joy in my heart. The joy is not something that makes you smile. But instead it gives you a warmth deep down inside to know that you need not fear any circumstance because LOVE WILL PREVAIL.

May 3rd, 2008 at 3:46 pm
Edren
 15 

*speechless..

May 4th, 2008 at 4:03 pm

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